Ten Signs a First Date Went Well

After flirting with a girl on Friends with Benefits and talking to her for a few days, you went on a first date. In the end, all you want to know is whether it went well or not. 

However, you are not sure if the girl really had a good time or if she was just being polite. 

There are people who resort to white lies so as not to offend… 

Not that they teach this kind of thing in school. So how can you tell if your first date was a success and if she wants to see you again? 

We explain it below.

Signs of a good first date

Sometimes, and for many reasons -although the main one is shyness- people say things without saying them directly. 

That’s why you have to know how to read between the lines. Especially if we are talking about a first date.  

1. She has not been distracted by things outside the date

One of the most curious properties of time, or our perception of it, is that if we are having a good time, it flies. On the contrary, if we are getting bored, it goes by very slowly.  

So if you catch yourself -or you catch her- looking at the clock or distracted by things that have nothing to do with the date, like the cell phone, things are not going well. 

2. Signs of a good first date: body language

The body speaks louder than words in many cases. If you want to know if the other person was interested in you, look at how their body behaves. If she leans towards you while you speak, if she looks you in the eye and if she smiles or laughs when you say something. 

So, on the contrary, if the date has felt short even though it was long, it is one of the signs of chemistry on first date.

3. The goodbye

It is as important as the date itself. How did you say goodbye? Do not just pay attention to the words, because she can tell you the same thing whether she wants to see you again or if she does not want to hurt you and prefers not to go out with you again. 

It’s better if you analyze if she decides to set a day for another date. Maybe she comments on things like a place she’d love to visit, a food she hasn’t tried, or a movie she hasn’t yet seen. 

Those are signs a first date went well. Especially if you both talk about what day of the following week is good for both of you to see each other again, it would be logical to think that there will be a second date. 

Someone who doesn’t want to see you again isn’t going to suggest new plans. 

4. How do you know if your date went well: she starts the contact again

People generally don’t contact people they don’t want to communicate with. So if a couple of days after a first date she texts you to chat, that’s a good sign the date went well. 

Positive messages, of course. If she sends you something like “please don’t contact me again in any way” it doesn’t matter if she initiates the contact. 

It is what could be called a preventive message. Instead, if she asks you things like “Hi, how are you?” or “Hi, what are you doing?” that is a very good sign. 

These kinds of messages are a way of telling you that they had a good time with you without saying it.

That’s the moment you realize it was worth all the time you spent chatting with her on the dating website where you met. 

5. She laughs at your jokes

If she laughs at your jokes, it’s almost a sure sign of attraction. If she laughs at your jokes and you know very well that you are less funny than a dumb gravedigger, well, boy, it is clear, right? 

Humor is almost always a sign of some kind of attraction and can make a first date very successful. 

If she genuinely likes your sense of humor, she will want to see you again. 

There is nothing better than laughter. It’s a sign that you’re having a good time. And that’s the point of a date: to have a good time. 

6. She asks you out

This is a major problem and more common than you think. The problem is that many men don’t realize that, on many occasions, the way women ask men out is different. She won’t tell you directly that she wants to ask you out. 

She’s much more likely to simply ask what you’re doing this weekend or mention an upcoming event. 

She wants you to take it from there. Don’t let her down.  

7. You kiss

If you went for the kiss and it was reciprocated, it means that she wanted to kiss you and, therefore, it is a way of telling if your first date went well. 

This should be obvious, but it is not. You have no idea how many guys don’t understand that a girl won’t kiss a guy back if she doesn’t like him that much. 

Nowadays, the best thing is that you ask. It may seem strange and childish to older people to ask if you can kiss them, but that’s the way it is now. 

And it’s OK. 

At one point, asking -be original- if you can kiss her, will make you seem tender, polite, vulnerable and sure of yourself at the same time. 

Also, a polite “this is not the time” is much better than having them turn their face away or back down, which is pretty humiliating and always forces a “sorry” that will cut it short. And a lot.  

So how do I know if a date went well ? The answer is simple. One of your mutual friends told you that she told her she had a great time. 

That’s a successful first date. 

If you have a friend in common and she is the one who gives you the news, it is because things are really serious but your date is too shy to admit it, or has doubts about whether you feel the same. 

It’s time to seduce that woman with all your weapons, go for her.

8. She interacts on your social networks

Social networks are hotbeds of information, direct and indirect. If your date starts giving you likes and hearts, it may be a sign that they like you and want to go on a second date.  Beware, not all the people who give you likes or hearts are trying to tell you something beyond that they like a specific publication.  On the other hand, if she sends you private messages to talk to you, that’s another good sign.

9. She is everywhere

If you never saw her anywhere before and now you run into her from time to time in the places you normally frequent, it is a sign that she likes you, therefore, the first date went well. 

The exception to this is if, for some reason – new job, moving house – she lives closer to you now. 

Even if it’s a lot of chances, it can happen. 

10. You no longer see her on our Friends With Benefits dating site

If you met through our page and you see that she no longer connects, she is not interested in meeting new people. And that is a sign of a great first date…

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